⁃ “Beautiful front garden wall” they say, the only person who thinks it’s an eye soar is my neighbour. Jealous nosey neighbours, I despise. However I don’t think he jealousy, it could be that he hates or fears change, he will get used to it. I live adjacent to a gateway to a primary school and the parents who come to pick up they kids after school seems to be captivated by it. To build it I initially contracted an independent builder. To erect a simple structure under 1 metre to avoid the hustle of procuring a planning permission. A brick wall with black coping stones and ceder cladding intervals. When the first phase was completed (without the ceder cladding) I fell in love with it. However after several weeks of waiting on the builder to finish the job. I called him several times at first he gave me excuses while insisting that I was the first on his priority list.
⁃ Disappointedly the coping stones started to come undone meanwhile I was trying to get in touch with him but he was avoiding me like the plague. He had gone AWOL that’s when I realised that behind the nice guy facade, he was a cowboy builder and he was never going to come back to finish the job let alone to rectify his mess.
⁃ That said I looked for another builder and found a reputable building company called Lux Construction design & Build, based in Leeds and 5 star rated by yell.
⁃ As you can tell from their work, they know well how to execute their craft. An upcoming but genuine and thriving company.
⁃ I expressed my vision and they were able to turn a flimsy messed up wall into a beautiful sturdy mess. A beautiful mess like a patchwork quilt after a good snooze.
2pac said what you won’t do, do it for love meaning love is a sacrifice. Happiness as well can be defined as the fruit of what we are willing to sacrifice now. For example copying the hard work in our early lives is key to having a comfortable life in the later years. You could be young, dumb and broke as Khalid said but have the heart to persevere.
Key attributes to happiness
Positivity, brilliance and passion are some of the key attributes to create a happy life. Passion is arguably the currency of life. Find your passion and be happy, my niece pointed out that some times its hard to realise your passion. Well it’s easy to identify your passion- what do you like to do with your spare time? What do you like to read? What are your favourite tv programs and why? What are you following on social media? What makes you tick? Such questions will help you to identify your passion, find something you love to do. You can also use your passion to generate income- getting paid while doing what you love to do. Some love reggae and use it to make a living. Well some might say music takes talent, natural ability to sing. Another good example is Michael Dapaah’s (Big ShaQ) passion is to make people laugh and doggedly persevered to make a break through with the hit comedy song “mans not hot” which made him. Dapaah used to grind 9-5 at Vodafone and had enough of that life. And wanted to do something creative and interesting so he started creating comedy skits and characters like Big ShaQ
Where there is muck there is brass
However some enjoy that hard earned cash through sweat and drudgery based on the principle that the harder the money is earned the more enjoyable. In Yorkshire, UK people say “where there is muck there is brass”. The saying was coined during the industrial revolution were mining was the mainstay of the region’s economy. In general some folk desire the life constant struggle and hard work to derive derive a sense of survival and purpose.
When you do something do it well, work is inescapable it is key to your well being. Every human, you, me and everyone around us we are built to work. To derive meaning, value, pleasure and fulfilment is to know why you are doing it and how to do it well (your mission) then it will feel less laborious. The average person works an average of 90 000 hours in their mortal life that’s a lot of hours to be miserable so developing a passion to do your craft is a panacea to boredom.
However overworking is no good it leads to stress or worse. For instance in Japan a considerable number or deaths are attributed to the working culture known as Karoshi, which can be translated literally as “overwork death” in Japanese.
Your mission is to create a sense of purpose. It could be argued that the main purpose of life is not only to be happy but to be useful to be honourable and to be compassionate as well.
A wholesome plan of Happiness is provided by the church The Plan of Happiness . Therefore a balance between secular and religious lifestyle is essential.