Egotism and Pride is a perfect form of imperfections

Egotism and Pride ain’t good for nobody, Ryan Holiday postulated that ego is the enemy in ego is the enemy

Ego leads a man to live in a world of his own imagination, since he believes he is always right, he becomes a menace to people who work under his direction

With ego you crave for validation, you will only see what’s going well not what isn’t.

With ego you endlessly pursue more.

Ego clouds the mind and deludes you.

Ego is the envy and corrosive, it undermines greatness and deludes people to think they are perfect. However ego is the devil and a perfect form of imperfections.

More often than not we harbour egotism and pride. C. S. Lewis warns that pride is ‘an anti God state’. According to religion Egotism and Pride can only be nullified by surrendering to the Lord or a higher being. Ok if you don’t believe at least learn from other people. As the great Martial Artist once said I treat everyone I meet like my master so that I can learn from them.

– If you harbour egotism and pride you thwart your growth. The martial artist Ken Shamrock stated that to effectively learn you need a Plus, Minus and Equal sparring partners. Continue reading “Egotism and Pride is a perfect form of imperfections”

A trip to USOpen2018: Expected to run an errand without my legs

The labyrinth of New York

My worst experience ever dealing with hotels was in China Town, New York. Since I had stayed at the same hotel in 2017 I thought the journey planning would be a doddle. From experience it’s stress free and doesn’t cost much to travel if planned well. Having said that, to avoid the unforeseen transport issues that I had encountered earlier in May going to Cyprus, I made sure that I go to Manchester Airport early in the morning though my flight was departing in the afternoon, at 14:00. At the airport I checked-in betimes, as soon as the check in commenced.

Earlier that morning I had failed to locate my phone charger. Never mind I will buy one at the Airport, I thought. As I was being checked in, “make sure you empty all the contents from the side pocket of your chair… Also take your wallet and remember to take it with you into the plane”, said the lady on the counter. After the check-in the lady put my wallet in the side pocket of my hand luggage.

In the lounge I decided to go to Dixon’s, a renowned U.K. electrical shop. In there I took out my wallet from my bag, which was on my lap. The shop didn’t have an American or universal adapters but they allowed me to charge my phone and to keep an eye on it. When I left the shop the time was 12:40 which means I had roughly about 20minutes to charge it before thinking about boarding. I then went back to the lounge and soon after I was bursting for the loo. I couldn’t see no signs for disabled toilets on the ground floor, I asked someone and I was told to go upstairs. Aware that I was pushing it, I decided to take my phone from Dixon’s. In the shop, I was getting frustrated because I couldn’t see my phone where I had left it, let alone all the sales personnel were busy helping customers. Finally, “do you want your phone?” Someone asked me to my great relief.

He then went into the office at the back of the shop and brought it to me. Thereafter I went to find the lift to go upstairs. After the loo and in the lift I alarmingly heard my name being announced. “Mr Mteliso can you please make your way to flight number…” I assumed that the ground staff couldn’t find me where I was supposed to be. Trying to up my speed but to my frustration I was annoyingly in a lift seemingly slow moving. In the moment I forgot that I had left my crutches behind in the lounge. In the tunnel to board the plane is when I recalled and I asked one of the Aeroplane crew to go get them where I had left them. Instead of being one of the first passengers to board, as a disabled person, I was the last one.

After 30 minutes the flight arrived in London at Heathrow airport. One of the grounds staff came to me and suggested that they were going to load my chair in the connecting flight. So I was pushed to yet another check-in where the ground staff who was pushing me had an altercation with the girl at the check-in desk. The check-in was subject to stringent checks similar to American Airports. As the ground staff was pushing me towards the check-in desk, she whispered in my ear, “if she asks you to take off your shoes, tell her you can’t… As a disabled person they can’t force you to do anything”. “Sir can you take off your shoes” the lady at the check-in desk looking like Janelle Monáe cried out. I thought they looked alike, maybe it was the similar hair style effect. “Unfortunately I cant” I retorted, boy oh boy, she was lived. She said to me with a voice festered with anger “if you can’t take them off then you can’t go through”. Back in my mind I wanted to compliment her looks but after the unfriendly remark I didn’t. I therefore asked to speak to the manager and when the manager came, I was given a green light to go through without any further checks. Whence I was taken to board my flight. After around an 8 hours flight we landed at JFK Airport.

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Your body is a temple

First off most of what I write are my beliefs or notions. Unlike laws, my beliefs are open to deliberation. If you disagree feel free to refute.

⁃ Our bodies are vehicles for getting things done. That said the healthier you are the better the chances to accomplish your goals.

⁃ Many ask me how I maintain my body given my circumstances, by and large I use my wheelchair to access outdoors.

1) I try to use my crutches, as much as possible 2) I don’t live to eat, I eat to live 3) I use my body weight to do the exercises that are within my ability and capability. 4) I make sure that I sleep for at least 6 hours 5) I drink a lot of water.

⁃ I hardly spend a dime to stay fit, no price to maintain my priceless body. However I would be lying if I say I never joined a gym. Admittedly, I was once a gym rat- spending a lot of time there working out, swimming lessons, steaming in the sauna, and lounging. Yet Richard Branson was laughing all the way to the bank at the expense of man like me. Thankfully I got busy in my life and I made a conscious decision to stop going to the gym.

⁃ In conclusion, Biblically apostle Paul asked that “or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? try and treat your body with maximum respect.

⁃ A healthy body is key in life and remember that life ain’t a sprint it’s a marathon. Do not abuse or over use your body in this day and age where life is subject to a rat race. Remember to occasionally rest and enjoy a good meal. Otherwise you will burn out or run out of fuel.

How poverty is one of the worst enemies of humanity.

⁃ Arguably one of the most influential figures of our generation once said

⁃ If you are born poor it’s not your mistake but if you die poor it’s your mistake. (Bill Gates)

⁃ In other words he challenged every one living in abject poverty to break the vicious cycle in they bloodline and failure to do that shame on you.

⁃ The question is do you agree with Bill or not. Personally and to some extent I don’t. In some circumstances the rich will always be rich, unless they are stupid enough to loose it all. The poor will always find it hard to break through but it’s suffice to say that everyone in the right state of mind aspires to live a descent life even to make it big. Hence the phrase “Get Rich or Die Trying” which was coined in the ghettos of America. This phrase implies that the only way out for the poor is to commit crime if they can’t be propped up by some sort of means weather by the government, religion or other means. Poverty is one one of the worst enemies of human kind. It wastes people’s potential, depriving societies and economy, affecting the skills and talents of those who have valuable contributions to make.

⁃ Myself I go to a church which provides platforms to help folk to access work and become self-reliant. With regards to the government and the wider communities, governments across the world could do a lot to make a difference. In the U.K. and from a Town Planning point of view the Joseph Rowntree Foundation In 2016 proposed a five point plan to eradicate poverty

⁃ 1) Boost incomes and reduce costs;

⁃ 2) Deliver an effective benefit system;

⁃ 3) Improve education standards and raise skills;

⁃ 4) Strengthen families and communities; and

⁃ 5) Promote long-term economic growth benefiting everyone.

To my fellow physically and mentally challenged I say to you we are different and difference is what makes this world. As a result you can bring something different to the table if you can. For instance learning difference like dixylesia can be a struggle in the early years, particularly the educational process but it will be a mighty advantage in the long run because if you different you can see what most people don’t see better yet life will only get better. For instance man like Richard Branson and Albert Einstein were dyslexic but they became very influential persons in life. Unfortunately the talent of people with learning difference from impoverished backgrounds particularly third world countries will never be realised.

The matrix: Architects of our own paradise

Morpheus: “I’m trying to free your mind, Neo. But I can only show you the door. You’re the one that has to walk through it” (The Matrix)

Likewise teachers, religious leaders, mentors and influential figures alike can only enlighten us to a certain extent but we are the architects of our own paradise.

Colleges and universities believe in the power of education and employers often filter candidates by level of degree attainment. While certain companies place high priority on proven skills, abilities and overall intelligence.

Winston Churchill famously said “success is not final, failure is not fatal, it’s the courage to continue that counts”. It could be argued that failure is key to joy and happiness, however as long as you get it right in the end. Failures can be viewed as a series of experiments- experimental scientist or scientist in general never stop carrying out empirical studies because of failed experiments, rather they keep on trying different things until they achieve the desired results. If you fail at something you are not the failure but the experiment is the failure. For instant, in football if a team fails to perform more often than not it’s the manager and his formation or game plan who gets the blame, even though it’s the players fault at times due to blatant lethargy.

You get out what you put in. Hard work and dedication pays. Michael Gladwell stated that it takes 10 000 hours to perfect your craft, and the hours are key to success.

Some argue that a narrow focus increases efficiency particularly when starting a business but as you grow your business and your team you can widen your horizons. For it has been advised not to put eggs in one basket. Meaning it’s not wise to concentrate efforts and resources on one area as you could lose everything.

Choose (what you want to do) Connect (get connected to an advisor or expects in that area as well as potential consumers) create (start don’t procrastinate commit (be diligent and never give up on your dreams). However if you are not enjoying what you are doing it’s best you jump ship as fast as you can. If you persevere with the job you hate you continue to live a life of perpetual unfullfilment.

Positivity, brilliance and passion are some of the key attributes to create a happy life. Passion is arguably the currency of life. Find your passion and be happy, my niece pointed out that some times its hard to realise your passion. Well it’s easy to identify your passion- what do you like to do with your spare time? What do you like to read? What are your favourite tv programs and why? What are you following on social media? What makes you tick? Such questions will help you to identify your passion, find something you love to do. You can also use your passion to generate income- getting paid while doing what you love to do. Some love reggae and use it to make a living. Well some might say music takes talent, natural ability to sing. Another good example is Michael Dapaah’s (Big ShaQ) passion is to make people laugh and he doggedly persevered to make a break through with the hit comedy song “mans not hot” which made him. Dapaah used to grind 9-5 at Vodafone and had enough of that life. And wanted to do something creative and interesting so he started creating comedy skits and characters like Big ShaQ.

Headfirst Thrills on Wheels

Have you ever read a non fiction thriller?

Independent wheelchair globetrotting feels like one. Search my name “Max Mteliso” on Amazon and buy the suitable edition for you. I will recommend people to buy the kindle edition. For paperback I encourage you to buy it from lulu.com- simply enter Headfirst Thrills on Wheels or my name. Enjoy the unputdownable novella: thrilling, enthralling, inspirational, motivational and above all enlightening. I think I just wrote a new and perfect blurb for it.

Find it here:

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07L9FWWB9

Headfirst Thrills on Wheels (wheelchair globetrotting and dealing with the Consequences)

Kindle: https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/sitb/B07L9FWWB9?ref=sib_dp_aw_kd_udp $4.99

lulu: http://www.lulu.com/shop/max-mteliso/headfirst-thrills-on-wheels-wheelchair-globetrotting-dealing-with-the-consequences/paperback/product-23849403.html £9.99, Paperback

Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Headfirst-Thrills-Wheelchair-Globetrotting-Consequences/dp/0244415498 $12.43 Paperback

Eventually, my novella is out: “Headfirst Thrills on Wheels”. The best words to describe it are thrilling, enthralling, inspirational, motivational and enlightening. A non fiction thriller. An account of my independent travels across the globe as an ordinary wheelchair user. The book highlights the challenges that I encountered as well as the enlightenment.

It might not be a hit but I guarantee you that somewhere and somehow, it will touch the minds of think tanks. The novella is also a good read packed with humor and impeccable English. Above all it inspires the wheelchair users and disabled people alike to travel further afield independently.

NB. I would encourage people to it on kindle while it’s selling at a reduced price of £3.99. The paperback is not yet available on Amazon. However I prefer it if people purchase the paperback on lulu.com £9.99.

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