Your body is a temple

First off most of what I write are my beliefs or notions. Unlike laws, my beliefs are open to deliberation. If you disagree feel free to refute.

⁃ Our bodies are vehicles for getting things done. That said the healthier you are the better the chances to accomplish your goals.

⁃ Many ask me how I maintain my body given my circumstances, by and large I use my wheelchair to access outdoors.

1) I try to use my crutches, as much as possible 2) I don’t live to eat, I eat to live 3) I use my body weight to do the exercises that are within my ability and capability. 4) I make sure that I sleep for at least 6 hours 5) I drink a lot of water.

⁃ I hardly spend a dime to stay fit, no price to maintain my priceless body. However I would be lying if I say I never joined a gym. Admittedly, I was once a gym rat- spending a lot of time there working out, swimming lessons, steaming in the sauna, and lounging. Yet Richard Branson was laughing all the way to the bank at the expense of man like me. Thankfully I got busy in my life and I made a conscious decision to stop going to the gym.

⁃ In conclusion, Biblically apostle Paul asked that “or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? try and treat your body with maximum respect.

⁃ A healthy body is key in life and remember that life ain’t a sprint it’s a marathon. Do not abuse or over use your body in this day and age where life is subject to a rat race. Remember to occasionally rest and enjoy a good meal. Otherwise you will burn out or run out of fuel.

How poverty is one of the worst enemies of humanity.

⁃ Arguably one of the most influential figures of our generation once said

⁃ If you are born poor it’s not your mistake but if you die poor it’s your mistake. (Bill Gates)

⁃ In other words he challenged every one living in abject poverty to break the vicious cycle in they bloodline and failure to do that shame on you.

⁃ The question is do you agree with Bill or not. Personally and to some extent I don’t. In some circumstances the rich will always be rich, unless they are stupid enough to loose it all. The poor will always find it hard to break through but it’s suffice to say that everyone in the right state of mind aspires to live a descent life even to make it big. Hence the phrase “Get Rich or Die Trying” which was coined in the ghettos of America. This phrase implies that the only way out for the poor is to commit crime if they can’t be propped up by some sort of means weather by the government, religion or other means. Poverty is one one of the worst enemies of human kind. It wastes people’s potential, depriving societies and economy, affecting the skills and talents of those who have valuable contributions to make.

⁃ Myself I go to a church which provides platforms to help folk to access work and become self-reliant. With regards to the government and the wider communities, governments across the world could do a lot to make a difference. In the U.K. and from a Town Planning point of view the Joseph Rowntree Foundation In 2016 proposed a five point plan to eradicate poverty

⁃ 1) Boost incomes and reduce costs;

⁃ 2) Deliver an effective benefit system;

⁃ 3) Improve education standards and raise skills;

⁃ 4) Strengthen families and communities; and

⁃ 5) Promote long-term economic growth benefiting everyone.

To my fellow physically and mentally challenged I say to you we are different and difference is what makes this world. As a result you can bring something different to the table if you can. For instance learning difference like dixylesia can be a struggle in the early years, particularly the educational process but it will be a mighty advantage in the long run because if you different you can see what most people don’t see better yet life will only get better. For instance man like Richard Branson and Albert Einstein were dyslexic but they became very influential persons in life. Unfortunately the talent of people with learning difference from impoverished backgrounds particularly third world countries will never be realised.

The Countdown: Just do it

⁃ Mel Robinson a lawyer by profession in the USA had an epiphany, one day when she was watching a space shuttle lift off, before going to bed. That famous count down gave her an insight and made her wonder if she could use it to launch herself out of bed in the morning. The following morning when the alarm went off she started counting down from 5 to 1 and afterwards she got up without procrastinating. Having said that she was really impressed by her discovery and spent 3 further years researching and scientifically proving if her 5 seconds rule countdown works. She went on deliver a Ted talk about it and the world was listening. Many tried to use it and many found it to be a vital tool to eschew procrastination echoing arguably one of the most powerful tag lines “Just do it” used by Nike. Therefore it could be argued that- Just do it- is the concept and the 5 second rule or the countdown is the tool. I said or the countdown because I believe that the count down could start at any figure and be just as effective. Some people could start at 3 simultaneously some could start at 10 depending on preference.

⁃ However scientifically, it is argued that the moment you have an instinct to act upon something, you only have 5 seconds to act on it before your brain shuts it down.

⁃ Therefore counting down from 5 to 1 makes sense. The countdown does not only awaken the pre frontal cortex but disrupts your negative patterns. From this point of view this tool could be used to disrupt any bad patterns. Try it and see if it works for you, do not let the biological imperatives go out of hand, if they do start using this tool.

⁃ You can’t control how you feel but you can control how you act. For instance you might feel attracted to someone but it is within you to have the courage to talk to the person or you would rather choke. Another common example is that of Marathon athletes, they can’t control their exhaustion but more often than not many choose to continue running rather than stoping.

⁃ The countdown tool gives you the courage and with courage you have the impetus to do or change things. You might not change the world but I guarantee you that you will change yourself for the better. Many across the globe tried it and successes range from having the voice to running multi-dollar businesses. That said it can help to boost your productivity, live a healthy life, cut futile procrastination and so forth.

⁃ Mel Robinson discovered this tool at 41, stuck in the swamp (despair) and now she is living a purposeful life even successful, she a doctor now.

⁃ If you can change the morning routine you can change everything. Try the 5,4,3,2,1 rule to wake up early in the morning. Set up your early alarm and do the wake up challenge and boom you are awake it could take a lot to wake up but it will get better as the day prolongs. Sleep inertia, you will require more energy to wake than you need to get by rest of the day. In a similar vein science says that more energy is required to initiate the movement than to sustain the velocity. To reach your potential you gonna have to push yourself to take that first leap. The general consensus here is that you can accomplish more if you wake up early in the morning however it could be argued that productiveness and efficiency has more value and different folk are best productive and efficient at different times. Some feel productive and creative at night ironically some feel the same in the morning. Some at various times through out the day. Albeit the widely known productive hours are the first hours of your day, before your mind is distracted or bombarded by a myriad of thoughts. In other words that’s when you exhibit maximum freshness.

⁃ Which takes us to the importance of taking a nap. Winston Churchill was known for taking naps during the hit of World War II. As a result he attributed his successes to the naps he took. So don’t be hard on yourself by forcibly trying to keep awake throughout the day like a hard man, it’s ok to take a nap. You will be restarting and refreshing the mind.

⁃ Taking a nap is like an episode of productive procrastination- allowing your mind to wander as part of the creative process, sometimes we do this because we are stressed.

In conclusion conquer your doubts and fears, just do it. As Miyamoto Musashi (a great swords man) said

Today is victory over yourself of yesterday; tomorrow is your victory over lesser men.

How to take control of the situation

Continuing from the last blog post about fear -An American-Portuguese Neuroscientist named Antonio Damasio found out that our bodies react to fear and stress before our minds do, the empirical study was carried out in 1997. Having said that it is critical to pay attention to our body awareness, and read the signals in our body in order to take control. The secret to mind control is to realise the manifestation of fear in our bodies.

⁃ Biologically, our bodies react by releasing a stress hormone (cortisol). Dr Jill Bolte, a neuroanatomist in her book; My Stroke of Insight: A Brain Sceintist’s Personal Journey (Jill Bolte Taylor).

⁃ she states that

⁃ “When a person has a reaction to something in their environment, there’s a 90 second chemical process that happens in the body; after that, any remaining emotional response is just the person choosing to stay in that emotional loop”.

⁃ Something happens in the external world and chemicals are flushed through your body which puts it on full alert. For those chemicals to totally flush out of the body it takes less than 90 seconds.

⁃ This means that for 90 seconds you can watch the process happening, you can feel it happening, and then you can watch it go away.

⁃ After that, if you continue to feel fear, anger, and so on, you need to look at the thoughts that you’re thinking that are re-stimulating the circuitry that is resulting in you having this physiological response over and over again.”

⁃ I myself I know I’m in fear when my hair stands on it’s end, at times shortening of breath and losing balance when standing. Different people react to fear differently it has been reported that some experience tightening of chest, tightening of throat, rush on your throat, excessive sebum (white staff which comes out of the pores everytime you squeeze your nose or chin, gross right?…unfounded I just made that up).

⁃ Within the 90 second window learn how to calm yourself down. Here is what to do to address the moment of fear 1) simply breath slowly and count to 90 2) breath slowly and get up and walk around. 3) hug someone you know for 90 secs

A Beautiful Mess

⁃ “Beautiful front garden wall” they say, the only person who thinks it’s an eye soar is my neighbour. Jealous nosey neighbours, I despise. However I don’t think he jealousy, it could be that he hates or fears change, he will get used to it. I live adjacent to a gateway to a primary school and the parents who come to pick up they kids after school seems to be captivated by it. To build it I initially contracted an independent builder. To erect a simple structure under 1 metre to avoid the hustle of procuring a planning permission. A brick wall with black coping stones and ceder cladding intervals. When the first phase was completed (without the ceder cladding) I fell in love with it. However after several weeks of waiting on the builder to finish the job. I called him several times at first he gave me excuses while insisting that I was the first on his priority list.

⁃ Disappointedly the coping stones started to come undone meanwhile I was trying to get in touch with him but he was avoiding me like the plague. He had gone AWOL that’s when I realised that behind the nice guy facade, he was a cowboy builder and he was never going to come back to finish the job let alone to rectify his mess.

⁃ That said I looked for another builder and found a reputable building company called Lux Construction design & Build, based in Leeds and 5 star rated by yell.

⁃ As you can tell from their work, they know well how to execute their craft. An upcoming but genuine and thriving company.

⁃ I expressed my vision and they were able to turn a flimsy messed up wall into a beautiful sturdy mess. A beautiful mess like a patchwork quilt after a good snooze.

Fear of rejection

◦ First off I say what I say not because I’m better than you but just sharing the love. Hoping that somehow, somewhere someone will benefit from what I share.

◦ Continuing from my blog about fear…We try to fulfil our lives with temporary fixes like a half hearted date or a flirt. Pointedly, the notion that worldly materials can fulfil our lives or make us lives rosy or better is consistent and quite wrong. That’s living in cloud cuckoo land or living a fantasy. Things like impulsive shopping – buying things that you don’t really need; hoading, going on endless dates with multiple partners. Wanting more and more telling yourself if I only get this and that or this one and that one I will be ok. When you fall into this trap you would have lost a control in you. Once you get that you might find yourself wanting more of that and before you know it’s an addiction. We all live on a grid and we have a pattern to follow it runs on imperative biological. mechanisms. Like food, sex and that ond if those bit’s becomes uncontrollable to the point of causing distraction, pose and reflect behind our damaged perceptions there is a great fear that pertains to a core belief, this is the key line in a code of our misery, if we crack the code and address it we can be free from the bondage of fear.

Fear of rejection by women

For instance behind the fact that I’m still single there is a fear of rejection to some extent, the fear that the people I’m attracted to would never love me because I’m disabled, the fear of being heartbroken, the fear of inadequacy, fear of taking risks and that. 5:

◦ She is not attracted to me, so what? Fair play, that’s her opinion and wish her the best in finding mr Fantastic. I will get my heart broken, so what? It can be put together- give it time to heal and move on. I sustained a brain injury, so what? Difference is what make this world. I’m not adequate- man’s disabled, so what? This kind of defective thinking is sad or worse. To address inadequacy I tried to climb the ladder, thinking that if I achieve x,y,z I will be ok but after achieving that I found myself still climbing the ladder. However ain’t nothing wrong with climbing rather than being stuck in the swamp and hopefully one day you will settle at the beach (the swamp symbolises despair, Climbing is building your carrier, and when you settle at the beach is when you finally relax and enjoy the fruits of your labour).

◦ I’m no stranger to taking risks and I know the importance of going an extra mile. I know that if you take deeper risks you get deeper rewards and that if you go an extra mile there is less traffic. However because of fear of rejection I don’t take deeper risks and I’m reluctant to go an extra mile to ask out who I want. To be continued…

The matrix: Architects of our own paradise

Morpheus: “I’m trying to free your mind, Neo. But I can only show you the door. You’re the one that has to walk through it” (The Matrix)

Likewise teachers, religious leaders, mentors and influential figures alike can only enlighten us to a certain extent but we are the architects of our own paradise.

Colleges and universities believe in the power of education and employers often filter candidates by level of degree attainment. While certain companies place high priority on proven skills, abilities and overall intelligence.

Winston Churchill famously said “success is not final, failure is not fatal, it’s the courage to continue that counts”. It could be argued that failure is key to joy and happiness, however as long as you get it right in the end. Failures can be viewed as a series of experiments- experimental scientist or scientist in general never stop carrying out empirical studies because of failed experiments, rather they keep on trying different things until they achieve the desired results. If you fail at something you are not the failure but the experiment is the failure. For instant, in football if a team fails to perform more often than not it’s the manager and his formation or game plan who gets the blame, even though it’s the players fault at times due to blatant lethargy.

You get out what you put in. Hard work and dedication pays. Michael Gladwell stated that it takes 10 000 hours to perfect your craft, and the hours are key to success.

Some argue that a narrow focus increases efficiency particularly when starting a business but as you grow your business and your team you can widen your horizons. For it has been advised not to put eggs in one basket. Meaning it’s not wise to concentrate efforts and resources on one area as you could lose everything.

Choose (what you want to do) Connect (get connected to an advisor or expects in that area as well as potential consumers) create (start don’t procrastinate commit (be diligent and never give up on your dreams). However if you are not enjoying what you are doing it’s best you jump ship as fast as you can. If you persevere with the job you hate you continue to live a life of perpetual unfullfilment.

Positivity, brilliance and passion are some of the key attributes to create a happy life. Passion is arguably the currency of life. Find your passion and be happy, my niece pointed out that some times its hard to realise your passion. Well it’s easy to identify your passion- what do you like to do with your spare time? What do you like to read? What are your favourite tv programs and why? What are you following on social media? What makes you tick? Such questions will help you to identify your passion, find something you love to do. You can also use your passion to generate income- getting paid while doing what you love to do. Some love reggae and use it to make a living. Well some might say music takes talent, natural ability to sing. Another good example is Michael Dapaah’s (Big ShaQ) passion is to make people laugh and he doggedly persevered to make a break through with the hit comedy song “mans not hot” which made him. Dapaah used to grind 9-5 at Vodafone and had had enough of that life. And wanted to do something creative and interesting so he started creating comedy skits and characters like Big ShaQ.