Crisis can either make you or break you

Where there is crisis I see opportunity. Crisis can either make us or break us. React to it wisely, you a winner my friend, if you don’t it will beat you down to your knees. In the Chinese alphabet the character for crisis also means opportunity. To overcome crisis you have to become more resolutely stubborn.

Christopher Columbus said

– Refuse to give in to temporal defeat you must keep on trying and trying again. By prevailing over all obstacles and destructions one may unfailingly arrive at his chosen goal or destination-.

Mamoudou Gassama

What a hero, he deserves film roles in Hollywood or better, imagine if he got the fame and fortune of Toby Maguire who popularised the Spider-Man fantasy. He risked his life for he could have died as a result many disliked his act of heroism. Last time I checked the YouTube video showing the incident, the ratio of thumbs up to thumbs down was 71k👍🏿: 3.3k👎🏿. However for many it was an act of unprecedented heroism and the president of France realised that and made him an honorary French citizen coupled with a french medal of courage and in June 2018 he received the BET Humanitarian Award. Also he was offered to join the fire service.

Before this Gassama was an immigrant who crossed the Mediterranean and acquired legal papers to stay in Italy after taking a treacherous journey from Mali to Europe via Bekina Faso, Niger and Libya were he was reportedly incarcerated and beaten like a piñata. Despite getting papers in Italy, he wanted to be reunited with his brother living in France.

As a young lad prolly single and nothing to loose, he decided to take the riskiest move to climb four stories to save someone’s life. Little did he know that the crisis at hand would present him with opportunities.

Be obsessed and be idiotically confident

First off I digress, it’s been a while I know but I’m back and I promise to give you more words. For in the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, however mine word is not from the mountain top.

Back to my word: Work doggedly and be idiotically confident to rise to the loftiest heights.

Following my previous posts, someone contacted me and said there is nothing wrong with wanting more and argued that our Heavenly Father wants us to be prosperous. I 100% agree and that’s why it is important to create value in whatsoever you desire or choose to do for it is written in Luke chapter 12 that to whom much is given much is expected. Many acknowledge this by making donations or contributions towards various causes and that’s creating value. Your business could create value directly or indirectly. If your objective is to create value you will not view charity as a contribution or donation but as an investment.

⁃The greats and the succetssful people are arguably jewels in a crown, they do not only make the world go round but also make the world a liveable place.

⁃Be obsessed or be mediocre: unending desire to create something: be idiotically confident.

⁃without the capacity to work tirelessly or to be obsessed you can never be great. Obsession and steadfastness are key attributes here, better yet anyone in a functional state of mind can have them. You don’t need any qualifications whatsoever to acquire them. For example who thought a guy with no formal education could lead a successful nation. It has been said that Jacob Zuma of South Africa had no formal education but self taught. He did not only serve one term but two terms (forced resignation before the second one ended). Before he came to power he was already a successful man even one of the wealthiest figures in Africa. His flamboyance is expressed by his many well looked after concubines and swag. It’s fair to acknowledge that he had worked tirelessly to get to the pinnacle before the government corruption allegations. When he made a silly mistake particularly when delivering speeches he would use his charisma to destruct people in order to take they eyes off him.

⁃Along the road to the top they gon be haters and naysayers, use those as fuel to keep at it even to up your game. Does this sound familiar “I love you the way you are so don’t try to be something you not” or “slow down will you and don’t stress it’s not good for your health” or “don’t compare yourself to others” or “relax a bit, take some time off”

⁃many people will tell you that the obsession of success or greatness is not a good thing. However each and everyone has some greatness in them, own your greatness.

⁃Obsession will allow you to keep pressing forward to the next best thing. The best not only for yourself but also the wider community

⁃If you use the same innocents and energy you had as a child you will never go wrong. Without honesty and integrity you may end up falling from the pinnacle like Zuma.

pray to god like your life depends on him and work even harder like peoples lives depend on you

The Countdown: Just do it

⁃ Mel Robinson a lawyer by profession in the USA had an epiphany, one day when she was watching a space shuttle lift off, before going to bed. That famous count down gave her an insight and made her wonder if she could use it to launch herself out of bed in the morning. The following morning when the alarm went off she started counting down from 5 to 1 and afterwards she got up without procrastinating. Having said that she was really impressed by her discovery and spent 3 further years researching and scientifically proving if her 5 seconds rule countdown works. She went on deliver a Ted talk about it and the world was listening. Many tried to use it and many found it to be a vital tool to eschew procrastination echoing arguably one of the most powerful tag lines “Just do it” used by Nike. Therefore it could be argued that- Just do it- is the concept and the 5 second rule or the countdown is the tool. I said or the countdown because I believe that the count down could start at any figure and be just as effective. Some people could start at 3 simultaneously some could start at 10 depending on preference.

⁃ However scientifically, it is argued that the moment you have an instinct to act upon something, you only have 5 seconds to act on it before your brain shuts it down.

⁃ Therefore counting down from 5 to 1 makes sense. The countdown does not only awaken the pre frontal cortex but disrupts your negative patterns. From this point of view this tool could be used to disrupt any bad patterns. Try it and see if it works for you, do not let the biological imperatives go out of hand, if they do start using this tool.

⁃ You can’t control how you feel but you can control how you act. For instance you might feel attracted to someone but it is within you to have the courage to talk to the person or you would rather choke. Another common example is that of Marathon athletes, they can’t control their exhaustion but more often than not many choose to continue running rather than stoping.

⁃ The countdown tool gives you the courage and with courage you have the impetus to do or change things. You might not change the world but I guarantee you that you will change yourself for the better. Many across the globe tried it and successes range from having the voice to running multi-dollar businesses. That said it can help to boost your productivity, live a healthy life, cut futile procrastination and so forth.

⁃ Mel Robinson discovered this tool at 41, stuck in the swamp (despair) and now she is living a purposeful life even successful, she a doctor now.

⁃ If you can change the morning routine you can change everything. Try the 5,4,3,2,1 rule to wake up early in the morning. Set up your early alarm and do the wake up challenge and boom you are awake it could take a lot to wake up but it will get better as the day prolongs. Sleep inertia, you will require more energy to wake than you need to get by rest of the day. In a similar vein science says that more energy is required to initiate the movement than to sustain the velocity. To reach your potential you gonna have to push yourself to take that first leap. The general consensus here is that you can accomplish more if you wake up early in the morning however it could be argued that productiveness and efficiency has more value and different folk are best productive and efficient at different times. Some feel productive and creative at night ironically some feel the same in the morning. Some at various times through out the day. Albeit the widely known productive hours are the first hours of your day, before your mind is distracted or bombarded by a myriad of thoughts. In other words that’s when you exhibit maximum freshness.

⁃ Which takes us to the importance of taking a nap. Winston Churchill was known for taking naps during the hit of World War II. As a result he attributed his successes to the naps he took. So don’t be hard on yourself by forcibly trying to keep awake throughout the day like a hard man, it’s ok to take a nap. You will be restarting and refreshing the mind.

⁃ Taking a nap is like an episode of productive procrastination- allowing your mind to wander as part of the creative process, sometimes we do this because we are stressed.

In conclusion conquer your doubts and fears, just do it. As Miyamoto Musashi (a great swords man) said

Today is victory over yourself of yesterday; tomorrow is your victory over lesser men.

Fear of rejection

◦ First off I say what I say not because I’m better than you but just sharing the love. Hoping that somehow, somewhere someone will benefit from what I share.

◦ Continuing from my blog about fear…We try to fulfil our lives with temporary fixes like a half hearted date or a flirt. Pointedly, the notion that worldly materials can fulfil our lives or make us lives rosy or better is consistent and quite wrong. That’s living in cloud cuckoo land or living a fantasy. Things like impulsive shopping – buying things that you don’t really need; hoading, going on endless dates with multiple partners. Wanting more and more telling yourself if I only get this and that or this one and that one I will be ok. When you fall into this trap you would have lost a control in you. Once you get that you might find yourself wanting more of that and before you know it’s an addiction. We all live on a grid and we have a pattern to follow it runs on imperative biological. mechanisms. Like food, sex and that ond if those bit’s becomes uncontrollable to the point of causing distraction, pose and reflect behind our damaged perceptions there is a great fear that pertains to a core belief, this is the key line in a code of our misery, if we crack the code and address it we can be free from the bondage of fear.

Fear of rejection by women

For instance behind the fact that I’m still single there is a fear of rejection to some extent, the fear that the people I’m attracted to would never love me because I’m disabled, the fear of being heartbroken, the fear of inadequacy, fear of taking risks and that. 5:

◦ She is not attracted to me, so what? Fair play, that’s her opinion and wish her the best in finding mr Fantastic. I will get my heart broken, so what? It can be put together- give it time to heal and move on. I sustained a brain injury, so what? Difference is what make this world. I’m not adequate- man’s disabled, so what? This kind of defective thinking is sad or worse. To address inadequacy I tried to climb the ladder, thinking that if I achieve x,y,z I will be ok but after achieving that I found myself still climbing the ladder. However ain’t nothing wrong with climbing rather than being stuck in the swamp and hopefully one day you will settle at the beach (the swamp symbolises despair, Climbing is building your carrier, and when you settle at the beach is when you finally relax and enjoy the fruits of your labour).

◦ I’m no stranger to taking risks and I know the importance of going an extra mile. I know that if you take deeper risks you get deeper rewards and that if you go an extra mile there is less traffic. However because of fear of rejection I don’t take deeper risks and I’m reluctant to go an extra mile to ask out who I want. To be continued…

Headfirst Thrills on Wheels

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Work

The privilege to work is a gift.

The power to work is a blessing.

The love of work is success.

(the 9th LDS church President, David O McKay)

Following my last post

Work hours

Time is the wrong matrix to use when evaluating work done by an employee. It’s not about how much time the employee works or you work it’s how effective they/you use the time. From my ergonomics observation If it’s merely about time it feels like punishment more like pain in the hindquarters or ass and the employees won’t wait to knock off work only to be stuck in traffic. Also from my experience of working with PAs and employees alike, giving them autonomy is key to increasing their effectiveness better yet they fall in love with they craft. Hey ho, they might even come up with better ideas than you to run your business or life.

There is a fallacious saying which states that “if you want something well done do it yourself”. This will only waste time and to some extent unwise as the late Steve Jobs said the best things (resources) in life are free. For instance time doesn’t costs any money so use it wisely.

Love and Happiness

2pac said what you won’t do, do it for love meaning love is a sacrifice. Happiness as well can be defined as the fruit of what we are willing to sacrifice now. For example copying the hard work in our early lives is key to having a comfortable life in the later years. You could be young, dumb and broke as Khalid said but have the heart to persevere.

Key attributes to happiness

Positivity, brilliance and passion are some of the key attributes to create a happy life. Passion is arguably the currency of life. Find your passion and be happy, my niece pointed out that some times its hard to realise your passion. Well it’s easy to identify your passion- what do you like to do with your spare time? What do you like to read? What are your favourite tv programs and why? What are you following on social media? What makes you tick? Such questions will help you to identify your passion, find something you love to do. You can also use your passion to generate income- getting paid while doing what you love to do. Some love reggae and use it to make a living. Well some might say music takes talent, natural ability to sing. Another good example is Michael Dapaah’s (Big ShaQ) passion is to make people laugh and doggedly persevered to make a break through with the hit comedy song “mans not hot” which made him. Dapaah used to grind 9-5 at Vodafone and had enough of that life. And wanted to do something creative and interesting so he started creating comedy skits and characters like Big ShaQ

Where there is muck there is brass

However some enjoy that hard earned cash through sweat and drudgery based on the principle that the harder the money is earned the more enjoyable. In Yorkshire, UK people say “where there is muck there is brass”. The saying was coined during the industrial revolution were mining was the mainstay of the region’s economy. In general some folk desire the life constant struggle and hard work to derive derive a sense of survival and purpose.

Doing work

When you do something do it well, work is inescapable it is key to your well being. Every human, you, me and everyone around us we are built to work. To derive meaning, value, pleasure and fulfilment is to know why you are doing it and how to do it well (your mission) then it will feel less laborious. The average person works an average of 90 000 hours in their mortal life that’s a lot of hours to be miserable so developing a passion to do your craft is a panacea to boredom.

However overworking is no good it leads to stress or worse. For instance in Japan a considerable number or deaths are attributed to the working culture known as Karoshi, which can be translated literally as “overwork death” in Japanese.

Your mission is to create a sense of purpose. It could be argued that the main purpose of life is not only to be happy but to be useful to be honourable and to be compassionate as well.

Conclusion

A wholesome plan of Happiness is provided by the church The Plan of Happiness . Therefore a balance between secular and religious lifestyle is essential.